NEW YEAR
NEW BEGINNING!!
I love the New Year! It is
a time of new beginnings, a new chapter, a new season – it is anything and
everything I want it to be. It all depends on my perspective.
In preparing my intentions
for the New Year, I reviewed my Happiness Project. (Remember that?) I saw there
were a few things on there that I just wasn’t doing and probably would not be
doing anytime soon, (like exercising every day), so I removed them. Poof! Gone.
Then I added an overall
intention that I think applies to everything I do:
INTENTION 2014
To be grounded in the present moment; savoring my
life as it is, while remaining open to possibility and change.
This isn’t as easy as it
sounds. I really want to be there for
my life, exactly as it is, immerse myself in it, connect with it, let it touch
me - - while at the same time embracing change and possibility. (Not always
easy when the change isn’t my idea!)
I also developed an
overall mission statement for my life. I prayed about it a lot, especially
using the visioning technique I have learned from a wonderful religious science
practitioner, Sheila Thomas. When practicing visioning, rather than praying for
something specific that I want, I am
learning to “catch” God’s vision for my
life, trusting that whatever it is, it is so much better than I could ever come
up with by myself!
MISSION STATEMENT – God’s Vision for My Life
To
spread enthusiasm and joy, grounded in healthy habits and savoring the freedom and
fullness of life.
GRATITUDE is
the spiritual foundation supporting all of this. Paying attention, taking in
the good and practicing gratitude allows me to live in the splendor of the
present moment, while remaining open to what God has in store for me. It allows
me to savor the fullness of it all in an attitude of freedom. It helps ground
me in healthy habits because I’m so darn grateful
for my body and my good health, (especially on the other side of vertigo). I want
to give back by sharing my enthusiasm and my joy.
I thought you might enjoy
the reflection questions I shared with the women at our church. I would love to
hear your ideas, inspirations and/or intentions for your new beginning.
I am also including my
new, streamlined, revised Happiness Project resolutions at the end of this
post.
I love you friends, and
look forward to sharing our inspirations and intentions with each other as we
live them throughout the year.
Signing out from the glorious Bishop's Ranch Episcopal retreat center outside of Healdsburg in Northern California wine country.
REFLECTION QUESTIONS
CHANGE AND NEW
BEGINNINGS
To keep our faces
toward change
And behave like free
spirits in the presence of fate
Is strength
undefeatable. – Helen Keller
·
Reflect
on the seasons of change in my life. Trees shed their leaves and are dormant
before there is re-growth. What do I need to shed in order to grow?
§
What
seems to be passing away in my life?
§
What
seems to be entering my life? Is there a
new thing springing forth? Is there a mustard seed ready to grow?
§
How
am I afraid of change? Can I find ease in risk?
§
Are
there new ways of seeing, new ways of living God is calling me? Am I open to God’s invitation to me?
§
Are
the changes to where I’m being called internal
or external? Or both?
§
What
are the first steps in my new adventure?
HAPPINESS PROJECT RESOLUTIONS
Gretchen
Rubin, in her book, The Happiness Project,
suggests identifying concrete actions that will boost your happiness, followed
by keeping your resolutions. She claimed that the single most effective step in
her whole happiness project was her Resolutions
Chart.
She
developed her Resolutions Chart based on three simple questions:
· What makes you feel good? What activities, do you find
fun, satisfying, or energizing?
· What makes you feel bad? What are sources of anger,
irritation, boredom, frustration, or anxiety in your life?
· “What makes you feel right?” Does your life reflect your values?
(Changes are in red.)
My Resolutions Chart
Choose the bigger life.
Resolutions on Time
· I want to move with ease
and grace through life and let go of being in a hurry or anticipating the next
thing. (I like this bigger picture
resolution, followed by these specifics . . .)
· Start getting
ready 15 minutes earlier. For everything; work in the morning, going out
to dinner, getting ready for a trip; everything.
· Get in bed one
half hour earlier. I get up at 5:30 am so that I have lots of unstructured
morning time. This means I need to get in bed earlier. (9:30 – really?)
· Do one thing at a
time.
· Do the next right
thing.
· Enjoy the
process.
· Remember that a
lot can get done in 15 minutes. I may not ever have that luxurious span of time
before me.
· Take breaks when
I’m really busy. Don’t grind. Turning
from one chore to another makes me feel trapped and drained.
· Spend it out. Time and money are resources. Use the
good stuff now. Buy the better quality. Replace stuff that has never quite
worked. Open the new package. Use the great idea now; don’t save it for later.
· Fix stuff. Take
the time and patience to just do it. (I glued the
mirror back on my lipstick case).
· Don’t always save
the best for last. (Read the Datebook first; go out in the sunny day, clean
later!)
· Take the extra
time to make it nicer. (I brought candles and a pretty scarf for my spiritual direction peer group).
Resolutions for the Body
What
you do every day matters more than what you do once in a while.
· Exercise
at least 20 minutes every day. (Even when I’m tired. Even when it’s cold and
rainy. Even when I really don’t want
to.)
· Do my 5-minute
yoga stretches for my back and shoulders every day.
· Walk more, park
farther away, take the stairs.
· Wear comfortable
shoes.
· Dress warmly
enough.
Resolutions on Things I Want To Do
More Of
· Listen to more
music. Put Pandora on at home. Listen to music in the car instead of
ruminating.
· Keep learning new
things. Push through the resistance. The big one this year is learning the Mac.
It’s just a better product. (I’m doing it!!)
· Send my daily
gratitude E-mail to my buddy. (I already do this one).
· Try new groups. I
have a good start with the Threshold Choir, the book group at the library and Heart and Soul Center of Light. (I’m not really doing this one anymore.) Be fluid.
Give it a fair trial but if it’s not working, try something else.
·
Do more of what I like; walking, reading, exploring,
meditating and laughing.
·
Be comfortable with my preferences. Accept my likes and
dislikes. You can choose what you do; you can’t choose what you like to do.
· Try one new thing a week. New restaurant, café,
route to work, hiking trail, new friend, all this counts. (How about once a month?!?)
· Keep her
suggested one-sentence journal. What happened today that I want to
remember? When was I happiest today? (I bought a pretty little blue book that I
keep by my nightstand).
· Keep an
interest log. When something I read, see, hear, etc. engages me, write
it down. (never really caught on)
Resolutions on Reading and Writing
·
Read even more! I
love it, it is one of my very favorite parts about living, so why not do even
more of it! Read at least one hour a day.
· Reread stuff! Novels, sweet E-mails,
inspirational books, Christmas cards, articles that engage me. I reread The Happiness Project cover to cover.
· Finish
psycho-spiritual/self help books that I like. I’m notorious for reading half of
these kinds of books and starting another one. (This is hard, I have two or
three half finished ones lying around, but I want to keep trying on this one).
· Read
more sweet books; Madeleine L’Engle, Lucy Maud Montgomery, Laura Ignalls
Wilder, maybe even Nancy Drew! (good idea, but not happening)
· Write for at
least 15 minutes every day. This can include journaling and thoughtfully
crafted E-mails.
Resolutions on How I Want to Act
· Act the way I want to feel.
· Identify the problem.
· Reframe
complaints. Focus on what I do like, rather than what I don’t
like. Don’t nag or gossip. (a good idea, but I’m never going to do this
one perfectly, but gossip stays on there.)
· STOP when I start
feeling, thinking or acting obsessively. Stop worrying. Think about something
else. Do something else. Right then
and there.
· Let go; of my point, an
argument, obsessing, picking lint off the carpet,
feeling slighted. (I like a clean
carpet.)
· Push through
resistance when I know the end result will be good for me. Remember that
happiness may be the fruit from something I don’t want to do.
· Let
there be some disorder, inefficiency, frustration, even chaos. Go
off the path. (I’ve decided it’s ok to be anal.)
· Be polite and
friendly – to everyone.
Resolutions on Relationships
· Call my friends
and family more often.
· Be more generous;
with my resources, with my heart. Let someone have a bad day. Listen more.
· Focus on what I
love about the people in my life.
· Encourage, love,
support.
· Make new friends.
Keep expanding the circle.